Confused souls!

An emotional friend of mine quotes clichés like this one..

“You can't love somebody and not trust them. “

Cute one indeed! But a more deeper question is...Why are we scared of trusting people? Why do we insulate ourselves from the rest of the world? Why do we suspect? Is it even ok to suspect? Isn't trust supposed to be earned?

I believe in starting with basic assumption that every person is good at heart. Respect him/her the way you would respect a trustworthy person or a friend. But don’t be blind! Don’t be an emotional fool!

It is not so easy to practice this kind of attitude. Occasionally we will encounter situations that will make us skeptical of people. As we grow up, we start losing faith in "goodness" of people. How and where do we lose innocence? Even the most logical and rational people are susceptible to "cognitive dissonance". If we strongly hold the view that "people are good at heart" and at the same time encounter people who really break our heart, we think, and most of the times think in favor of our heart, trying to minimize the pain and end up changing our views so that they are in resonance with our experiences. And what do these experiences tell us? If you read them right...they just tell us that don't be blind, don't be an emotional fool. Few bad experiences should not cost us our innocence. Be willing to tolerate such circumstances, but don't let anybody rob you of your most precious possession, the innocence.

And as all this happens in our subconscious mind, we rationalize it somehow, by hook or crook, without even realizing what we are doing. If you were to realize that you catching up with this negative trait would you not step back? Unfortunately most of us don't even realize this. This is when the habbit of introspecting, a careful examination of one's own thoughts and feelings proves to be useful.

After editing this post three times...atleast! I realized that I am getting rigid too. It is hard to admit that I do swing between the two extremes I am talking about here. Most of us do. We are skeptics sometimes and sometimes we are emotional fools too. It is amazing how this blog has changed from a simple blog to personal confession.

So, the gist is keep faith…faith that every person is good at heart. Let us not give up our innocence ever. Let us make a lifelong pledge to be child at heart and love every person as one's own self. But let's not be emotional fools!

Luv ya all!