It is amazing how some people can be nice to everyone 24x7. They are never angry, atleast they don't seem to be angry;)! They will help anyone and everyone never mind how are they treated. It is amazing how someone can achieve that state....so amazing that at times it seems unworldly!
Why can't I be like them? Why can't everybody be like them?
The human element as we call it is made up of all the states of mind and its interaction with the environment(other humans). Every state of mind is reflected in how we interact with others. It is natural to be angry, it is natural to be sad, it is natural to be happy...all these things make you human being. What would a person be without any emotions...a machine?
To be nice no matter what is different from to be doing the right thing. Sometimes doing right thing is to get angry and let yourself express it. Why is that a sin? It is more humane I would say! Not expressing something in the form of anger doesn't mean one does not feel bad. And if one does feel bad why not express it?!
Learning how not to hit the extremes is always important! Balancing doesn't mean being goody good 24x7 it means understanding the situations and circumstances before reacting to it and reacting in the right way.
E.g.: If you kick me, I will ask, "hey why did you kick me?". And if you answer, "it wasn't your intention, you just happened to...blah blah blah..." . I will believe you. But if I sit there not reacting like a dead person instead of questioning you I must be either touch insensitive or must have entered the zone where nothing penetrates my thick skin, whether good or bad. (There is no good or bad anyways, but that is a different story entirely.)
Watch this from the movie.."Raising Helen":
watch the part where she gets angry and says.."Btw, You are not a bad person, but this is a very bad behavior" Not that this is the only way to handle the situation but I really like the way she pulls herself back and redefines her anger!
Monday, May 21, 2007
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